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post #31 of 39 (permalink) Old 05-29-2005, 09:39 AM
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I tried to go talk to his wife today but when i got there i couldn't go to the door. I know she is hurting and i don't want her to see my reaction.
If it were me, I would want you to visit and cry with me. It is o.k. to show her how badly you are hurting over this too. She will be comforted by knowing others miss him as well. Sometimes all you can do is go and cry with them.
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I did stop in to see them today. we all sat around and talked, cried and hugged for awhile. didn't know a roll of toilet paper had so many sheets. I guess talking to her help with closure. we'll truely miss him and it gave me a chance to understand what had happened. I do feel a bit better. I had to pass the site on the way and you can still see the blood stain on the pavement. i think that was the hardest thing for me. like i told her, i will make the showing, but just don't think i can do the funeral. it's hard enough knowing i wont have him nagged me about my Volusia, riding with me, or just sitting around shooting the ****. I just don't think i can handle the final step. I have a large empty spot in me right know that will take awhile to fill, but i know i will always remember my friend only in good thoughts.

I am a A$$Hole, just give me time and I'll prove it. I just don't give a phuk..
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Sorry, man.

What a nightmare for you.

I'm sorry.

I see a turning wheel on a dusty track
Caught in the void and empty space between there and back
And the paradise of going somewhere
That's still so far away
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Sled take your time getting yourself back to where your comfortable again on the bike. It's normal to have these feelings you're going thru now so accecpt them for what they are. Do go see your friends family at the viewing and let them see your sharing thier grief as well. Sure it's a tough road but so are you. Let them know that you may or may not attend the funeral itself but that you'll be there with them in spirit if you stay away. Follow up a visit with his wife later on just to let her know you still care.
As you know we're here for you whenever/ whatever.
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Sled take your time getting yourself back to where your comfortable again on the bike. It's normal to have these feelings you're going thru now so accecpt them for what they are. Do go see your friends family at the viewing and let them see your sharing thier grief as well. Sure it's a tough road but so are you. Let them know that you may or may not attend the funeral itself but that you'll be there with them in spirit if you stay away. Follow up a visit with his wife later on just to let her know you still care.
As you know we're here for you whenever/ whatever.
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I second this.... I really don't like funerals, but I also know that closure is tooo darned important.. you need it.. you might not realize it, but you do..
we are all here for you....

My best friend past away October 18, 1984 (I named my daughter after her) twice a year I go to the cemetary, on her birthday and the day she passed, I bring her something and Joyce my daughter brings her something... it is my way to see her I always talk to her and it is my way to teach my child that going to the cemetary is a respectful thing to do. I almost always kneel and almost always cry, but as longs as I have lived here I always go...

now at the same cemetary is my nephew Keith, Danny-a boy I used to babysit, Nikki and Dana Friends from high school, Sherry-a Friend from out bowling team, ****-a friends dad WE go only on Joyce's dayd, but we visit all of them, bringing a small Happy Meal toy to my nephew .. We stop and talk to all of them... I understand they are NOT there... but its good for me, to know where they are...

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Not much I can say that hasn't already been said, but thought about this all day in my head on Sat. when Carbon One and I were out ridin . Prayers and thoughts are out here for you and the family of need right now.

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Sorry for your loses Sled. I hate when a fellow rider dies from ignorance, stupity, or hatred. Life is not a video game, there is no reset button. I hope all parties involved eventually find the piece they/you deserve!
FALLEN, BUT NEVER FORGOTTEN!!!!!!
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Sled, all I can offer is my condolences.
My advice is insignificant, to what you know is in your heart.
It seems that life is NOT fair.

All we can do is live our lives with purpose, while we can.

I'll offer prayers for the comfort and peace that your friend's family and all of his friends, like you, deserve.

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So sorry to hear this sled. Prayers to your friends family.

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