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Riding with your kids is a no-no?

I don't get it. What about riding with your kids is so taboo in the motorcycling community?

It's almost impossible to find a 'family friendly' event whenever motorcycles are involved. Spend any time exploring pastimes such as boating, camping or RV travel and it's all billed as 'quality family time.' But change the venue to include bikes and it's a different story all together.....

It's bad enough to get the stereotypical reaction from a non-rider... "You can't be serious... You brought your KIDS???" But it's much worse to get the same reaction from fellow riders..... That is something that's pretty hard for me to accept, especially because bikes are so much a part of our lives. We ALL ride. We're on the bikes almost exclusively from March to November and even plan our vacations around riding. It's just a natural thing for us all to gear up and head out....

But despite our shared love of motorcycles, travelling and good times on the road, we often have to skip events, rallies or even individual rides because someone might be offended just by the presence of the kids.... I think that sucks to no end.

There is nothing inherently bad about riding or about motorcycles that we need to keep children away from. It just sucks for all of us that some people think a bike is a license to dress up and be 'bad as I wanna be' and kids aren't welcome....

They have no idea what sort of good times they really are missing......

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I think it depends on the rally/ride/event. I've been to plenty that have a ton of kids. We've had kids at just about every B(r)VR since the first one. There are a ton of kids that go to Bikes Blues and BBQ and that's an event with hundreds of thousands of bikes. On the other hand, you have to be over 21 to go to Sparks....and for GOOD reason. I think it's like everything else. There are parties I've been to where it's kid friendly and others where it's just adults. This is exactly what I've seen with motorcycle events as well. Nothing wrong with that IMO. Sometimes you just want to go and be an "adult" without worrying about children being present. Sometimes you want the kids there too. Nothing wrong with balance.



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But it is OK for off road bikes to have kids around. Maybe riding cruisers are like pool halls-kids aren't allowed because it is a bad place.
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I don't think it's necessarily the dress up to be badass and kids aren't welcome thing as much as it viewed as not a real safe activity in general, and that we shouldn't be subjecting them to those risks. An adult and an adult passenger can make that choice for themselves, but kids don't necessarily understand the risks involved are going to want to do things because mom and dad are doing it.

I don't object to your choice, it's completely yours to make. I wouldn't ride my kids if they were young like yours are, but that's me. I think a lot of people share that opinion and that's where your resistance is coming from.
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don't see anything wrong w/riding w/your kids...not crazy about seeing real young ones tho on the back of a ride...just another way to share time w/them and give them exposure to something "more addictive "than text messaging... be nice to see more kids sharing rides w/their folks...also gives them an awareness when its time for them to drive to also be on the lookout for mc's...we have a family here in the northeast that ride together to rallies...T-Bone, BlueButterfly and their sweet daughter PurpleFireFly. Gives me goosebumps everytime I see them riding together...like they say...priceless...especially seeing "mom" BlueButterfly on her own ride.

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I know full well that there are times when kids just aren't welcome to come. Some rallies and parties are pretty self explanatory. The problem I keep running into is how do I keep from offending people who think kids just don't belong on any ride, for any reason?

For example, I can select the most innocuous event imaginable: a weekend ride through the country to a BBQ or a burger joint. Even though there's nothing about the ride that should automatically exclude bringing the kids (afterall, who doesn't like a good burger?) there will still be some people ON the ride and say "WTF were you thinking?" I have offended them simply by showing up on a bike with my kids in tow..... It's reactions like that which I do not understand. Most riders are only too happy to have families along. But for some reason, to some people a motorcycle is a sacred place for misbehaving and the presence of kids is strictly verboten.... I think that sucks...

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I agree with Skrap. I have experienced several 'Motorcycles Only' resorts', and more rallies than I care to mention where kids weren't welcome and the attitude was just as Skrap described; "You brought your KIDS?" It just didn't feel right to me that people were made to feel out of place because they wanted their children , their familly, with them. Made ME uncomfortable, and the only 'kid' I have is an unofficially adopted one, nine thousand miles away.
It's like I told a good friend who is an integral member of VR, when he encouraged me to attend a rally. "I just don't fit in." That's just my bad luck, I guess.
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shame your group feels that way Skrap...wish you'd live closer to us folks here in the NE... our summer rally usually is attending by several families and the kids always seem to have a good time...this years Fall Rally is being held in Hershey...staying at the Chocolatetown Motel... guess that pretty much tells you that Family activity will be available... especially for those w/a sweet tooth.... you should consider joining us w/the family.
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i think for the most part with kids around, people feel restricted and feel forced to act properly.... motorcycle rallys arent a place that you usually want to feel restricted or act properly...

<~~~~ has no kids, nor have i been to a rally where ive been disgusted that kids have been there

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Honestly Skrap, I'm thinking you are getting more of an "I can't believe he brought the kids" vibe due to the safety issues, not the adult misbehaving aspect.

Personally, I don't think it's a good choice to ride with your kids, but that's me. I'd never say anything to you about it, or whisper behind your back, it's your choice, but I really think that is what you are experiencing, people who think you are not making a smart choice in riding with your kids. You went down hard right? What if your kid had been on the back on that ride?
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