i finally decided to quit being lazy and do this since i keep telling everybody else to do it.
but instead of a 3pin electronic flasher, i just got a 2pin electronic flasher. then i just pulled the brown and blue wire out of the plug body, and put a set of spade connectors on and plugged the relay in. whole deal took probably bout 10minutes.
i didn't see the need for going with a 3pin flasher and having to ground the 3rd pin. that's why they make the 2pin flashers. 1 less wire to worry about.