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Salt in the wounds...
My sister's fiancé passed away last Friday.
He was older, his children are all grown, and his divorce was relatively recent, having been finalized back in late 2010 or early 2011. He had been marred for a little over 31 years. The divorce was his decision and one he had been asking for for several years.
He and my sister had known each other for almost 14 years, but had only started dating this past summer, she had nothing to do with his divorce. When he was sick the fall, she was the one who took care of him, changed his IV's, helped him get back on his feet. His 5 children didn't help. His ex-wife didn't help. When he had a stroke and went to the hospital last Monday, it was my sister who came and sat by his side 24/7...none of his family showed up until Thursday...even though they'd all been notified.
After all that, she didn't get mentioned in his obituary...the obituary actually says he is survived by his wife of 34 years, even though they are divorced.
It's so upsetting to see the loss of a loved one bring out the worst in people. I realize that his children and ex-wife didn't want the divorce to happen in the first place...but it did. For them to just completely shut her out like that is cold in a way that makes me burn with anger.
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"…we don't obey to earn God's love; we obey in response to God's love."
"I believe sometimes bad things happen to good people so we can watch God turn the greatest tragedies into the purest love."
Quotes from: Athol Dickson. Gospel according to Moses, The: What My Jewish Friends Taught Me about Jesus